| 1 |
Do you feel responsible for another persons actions? |
| 2 |
Do you feel anxious when good things don't occur for another person? |
| 3 |
Do you loose sleep worrying about another person? |
| 4 |
Do you loose sleep worrying why things aren't going your way? |
| 5 |
Do you feel compelled or obligated to help another? |
| 6 |
Do you get a feeling of greater self worth by helping another? |
| 7 |
Do you suppress your thoughts or feelings only later to
"explode" in anger? |
| 8 |
Do you feel rejected or angry when another person does not want your
help? |
| 9 |
Do you over commit yourself to another, groups or committees? |
| 10 |
Do you go to work early and stay late, because the boss "needs
you"? |
| 11 |
Do you work long hours at your job, but do not charge your employer
or client for the work you performed? |
| 12 |
Do you obsessively clean the house, do laundry, cook to please
another? |
| 13 |
Do you worry more about the kids' or spouse's activities than
yourself? |
| 14 |
Take on an extended family, e.g. other people's kids? |
| 15 |
Do you wonder why you sometimes feel "crazy"? |
| 16 |
Do you sometimes wonder why you can't get anything done? |
| 17 |
Do you sometimes wonder why you never have energy? |
| 18 |
Do you abandon your routine because you are upset about someone or
something they may have done? |
| 19 |
Do you feel you must always be in control about your feelings? |
| 20 |
Do you blame others for your anger and lack of control? |
| 21 |
Do you get confused, depressed, lethargic or sick? |
| 22 |
Do you go to doctors to get tranquilizers? |
| 23 |
Are you experiencing long term physical symptoms of stress, e.g.
premature hair graying or rapid hair loss, varicose veins, ulcers, menstrual irregularities, etc.? |
| 24 |
Do you sometimes feel mental or physical abuse by another is your
fault? |
| 25 |
Do you find yourself repeating one bad relationship after another? |
| 26 |
Do you find that you cannot tolerate certain behavior in other
people? |
| 27 |
Do you have difficulty with or abstain from sex with your partner? |
| 28 |
Do
you find yourself unnecessarily spying on your partner or children? |
| 29 |
Do
you find yourself unnecessarily stealing from your partner or
children, e.g. check books, bank accounts, mail? |
| 30 |
Does
your spouse, children, parent, or significant other have a drug,
alcohol, gambling, eating, or sex problem/addiction? |
| 31 |
Do
you find yourself "enabling" another person in their
addiction? |
| 32 |
Do
you find yourself "sabotaging" another person's attempts at
recovery? |
| 33 |
Do you feel ashamed about your family or personal relationships? |
| 34 |
Do you sometimes deny or hide the fact that your family may have been
troubled, repressive or dysfunctional? |
| 35 |
Have you experienced eating disorders (overeating, anorexia)? |
| 36 |
Do
you sometimes feel like "killing" or wishing that other
person dead? |
| 37 |
Do
you sometimes feel like "killing" that other person and
yourself? |
| 38 |
Do
you have thoughts of suicide? |
Answering yes to Three or more of these questions may be
an indication that you have a problem with Codependency. You may want to seek professional
evaluation or discuss your situation with an organization such as Codependents Anonymous.
